Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a successful way to guide you through a difficult phase in your relationship. It is a scientific method developed by a Canadian professor Sue Johnson.
The basic idea is that a crisis in a relationship arises when one or both partners experience a lack of emotional bonding. This leads to conflicts in which partners can become pursuers or withdrawers. Familiar? This pattern can may lead to a negative spiral of emotions, where it is hard to show vulnerability.
This pattern can be changed, by taken the emotions as a starting point. This change leads to new ways of getting attached. This creates the safety and commitment needed. This doesn’t only count for monogamous relationships who feel they have grown apart. But also for relationships that deal with infidelity. Relationships that are transcending to a more polyamore lifestyle, and are struggling with jealousy and fear, while dealing with the fact that lovers have become a part of their life, also have a lot to gain with EFT. While all the forms of relationships mentioned above are in need of mending and reinforcing their relationship.
You will go through three phases:
- Adressing the negative pattern of interaction and making sure it does not lead to escalations anymore.
- As soon as you are on speaking terms again, you will be able to be vulnerable and to discover yourself and each other in a new way: this will lead to a bonding on a deeper level
- Getting attached to each other again.
Do you recognise this in your own relationship and are you in need of help or do you have a question? Call for an appointment or just send a mail.
“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity”